Have you ever told someone that you were praying for patience and you received a horrified look?
Then heard "OH! you should not pray for patience God will give you something to be patient about!"
Guess what? I used to be the horrified look person. ;o)
But I have come to realize that God's not some kind of sadist thinking... " hmmm you want patience? oh I will give you patience! Hold on honey...."
Honestly, how does that make sense when you read scripture that says to come to him all who are heavy laden?
Scripture does say that if you ask Him He will grant it.
Recently I have been asking God fervently for patience. In D and my prayer time at night, I ask for patience.
N requires much patience and much redirection. He has boundless energy and is always always on the go. I have often thought he may have a bit of ADHD, but he's only almost 5 yrs old, I am not looking to medicate him at this point.
Do we give him other things to do to help him lose the energy?... YES!...lol We ride bikes, we have the little in home trampoline, we run laps in the house, we take him outside to run. He flips in several directions in a matter of minutes while watching TV, he is talking from the moment his eyes open to the time he falls asleep, shoot he even twitches in his sleep.
The way he lines things up, sets them in order, separates them by color and then does it all again in different patterns colors and items. His little brain is always at work.
To be honest it's often difficult keep patience. I believe that God knows my heart, if I am asking him for the patience to deal with N's actions and allow him opportunities to release those brain waves then I know He will. I do not beleive He finds ways for N to be even more active and impulsive.
I want to be able to show N that he is loved, he is cherished, and it's ok to be "on" all the time. That although I have to speak to him for the 10th time about the same thing... he is still lovable and loved.
We were speaking to a friend the other day that said that we should try giving him Mountain Dew. I know we both laughed at her. Truly?! Are you kidding?! Have you seen him... and you want us to add caffeine to the mix? ;o)
She is a teacher at a local elementary school where children with special needs go. She said that the school psychologists offer the Mountain Dew option to parents that don't want to medicate. If the child truly has ADHD or something like it, the caffeine or stimulant will calm him. hhhmmm... interesting.
We haven't tried it yet. We haven't had a space in time to see if it works to calm him... or if we need to take he and his bike to the park and let him ride off the buzz...lol
D and I were just saying the other night that as crazy as life has become we sure do love these guys. They bring this added dimension to life that we never imagined. The love, the hugs, the kisses...the growth.
We have grown and expanded our lives, our conscience... our FAITH!
So in addition to praying for patience I am thanking God for His abundant grace and the gift of our children.