Thursday, November 4, 2010

Marketable?

What exactly does that mean? What does it mean to have a person be ‘marketable’? Doesn’t have a great connotation. (Especially if you have read the book Priceless)
This is what the dictionary says the meaning of ‘Marketable’ is:

–adjective
1.
readily salable.
2.
of or pertaining to selling or buying

This past Saturday I spent the day listening to a very well known, prominent, modeling school/company, try to sell themselves to parents and young ladies alike. They had called my S to ask her to come to a seminar and then participate in a private interview to see if she has what it takes to be a model. Since this has been a dream of hers for years, I agreed to take her.

I will be honest, it was pretty impressive, the presenter was persuasive in trying to convince us of the value of their company in training girls to be proud of who they are no matter what…that it’s not about looks. She is good at what she does!

Then came the personal interview. Again, the lady was a good. She had great things to say and really liked S. We were told that we would get a call on Monday to let us know if she were chosen to pay a CRAZY amount of money for her to attend the training school and then perhaps be a model for them.

We left…me wondering what in the world had just happened, and S crazy excited to see a dream possibly come true.

Monday came, and we got the call. She was indeed chosen. S had all the qualities they were looking for, and then some. The woman said all the right things, stroked my momma ego and then spoke to S, who immediately began hooting and hollering around the room. Her dream to become a model was within her grasp! (Grandma had agreed to pay her school fee) We were both excited… how as a mom do you not get caught up in the excitement of your child? Even if there are major alarms going off in your head?

So, due to the alarms, I went online and did some research. )Since it’s something I do well…lol) Said company had enough ugliness about it, that I felt it wasn’t the thing for us to do. I prayed a lot about it, and felt at peace about not pursuing this for S. I knew she would not be happy, even perhaps throw a fit, but felt this wasn’t the route for her to go.

When we sat down and spoke about it, she was actually much calmer than I had anticipated. The woman from the company called me on Tuesday night asking why I had not sent S’s acceptance info and payment in that day as directed. I kindly thanked her for her time, but said we would not be pursuing this avenue at this time. She went into sales woman mode…OF COURSE! 

I listened to what she had to say, I wanted S (who was listening to my end) to know that I wasn’t just blowing off her dream. Two things confirmed my suspicions: 1. “You want to know that your daughter is marketable. She is.” 2. “If you don’t choose to do this right now she will never be offered a place in our company again.”

The first one though kind of got my panties in a bunch.
My daughter is not ‘marketable’.

She is a living, breathing, beautiful, amazing young woman. She is a princess, a daughter of the most high God.

The thing that had me pause and try to consider this from all angles for her, was her statement to me as to why she wants to pursue modeling. She wants to “Be a role model for young women. To show them that you do not have to be perfect to be beautiful” In a world that sees perfection in beauty, this would be a wonderful refreshing change.

As I was on the phone with the modeling agency recruiter a phone call came in to S. She was asked to come in for a second interview at Old Navy! Yippee!!! A job she would be perfect for, and a place I can get discounts…lol I told her it was ‘God calling’ to answer her prayer of getting a job, and showing her that He was going to provide for her.

So we will not be marketing our daughter on the modeling front at this time… but will be helping her find ways to be the role model she already is, to others.

P.S. Talk to ya when I get back from the conference! Can't WAIT!! :)

4 comments:

Notes From The Frugal Trenches said...

I think you have made a very very very very wise decision! That's very wise ;)

"Are These Kids All Yours?" said...

That is sooo hard, but wise!!! Sometimes it is the mommy instinct and good knowledge that helps us to realize that although we want something- we also want it to be good.

Love your proud mommy moment!!!

Glad that S will have other opportunities! You never know where God will take her? Praying it will be AWESOME!

godgivenpassions said...

Yikes. You made the right decision but it is hard to tell them no when they have their heart set on it. For what its worth, my daughter had a close friend who went through all of that expensive modeling stuff in high school. She mostly got jobs doing demos for products at stores. Her dreams got dashed and it was really hard for her. I think that your mommy instinct is right on and she'll thank you later :)

LisaShaw said...

Amen Andrea! As a Momma Bear myself when the alarms go off I listen as I know it's the Holy Spirit's presence leading me!

The world will never look at us as the Word does so I never expect it that's why she was interested in pushing that your daughter must be 'marketable'. She has not a clue that your daughter's name is imprinted on the palm of GOD ALMIGHTY's Hand and that He knows even the #'s of hairs on your daughter's head!!! Marketable??? Oh my goodness she is a CHILD OF GOD -- SHE PRICELESS!!!

Love you girl!