Interesting… I have gotten my first ‘controversial’ reply. Obviously from someone who hasn’t read much of my blog. :)
Mirah, Thank you for your insight! Thank you for the ‘facts’, they are thought provoking.
The thing is that there aren’t easy answers to the great adoption debate. There just aren’t. We live in a fallen world…. Jesus said himself, to Judas, that there will always be the poor and needy among us.
Is adoption always the answer? Of course NOT! The point is to make “UNorphans” as my friend Carolyn says. Let’s stop the process that makes orphans thus having less orphans and more preserved families. There’s a GREAT conference happening right now in Austin TX, that is speaking to this very subject. The subject of Orphan Care… and ALL that that entails.
You are right, unfortunately there are many children in orphanages that should not be, there has been child trafficking…unfortunately there still is…WAY WAY too much of it, and not all due to adoption. It’s sick and shouldn’t happen…it needs to change and we certainly need to stand up for those children.
You are also right that there are thousands of children in foster care waiting for someone to care for them. It sucks! I wish I had a magic wand to wave over the situation to change it. I don’t…and I can’t.
The one debate that I think makes me the most crazy…and I will speak to it here, cause it’s my blog and you brought it up…is the debate over adopting overseas or from the US foster system.
Our choice, CHOICE, was to pray about what God wanted for our family and Ethiopia was the door he opened twice. And possibly again…. I do not believe for a second that children here in the US are any less deserving or loveable…I don’t believe that they are any more ‘damaged’(and I purposefully didn’t use the word damaged in my original post because I do not think it’s appropriate. My children were hurt, scared and have seen pain…but they are NOT damaged). I believe they are part of the whole that make up the ‘children from hard places’.
We chose, Ethiopia, because that’s where God called us to… no one has a right to say that our or any other adoption wasn’t the right choice for their family.
There does need to be more focus on caring for the child in country…or in home as the case may be.
There are many ways we can help make UNorphans. Is adoption always the answer? Nope. Are there kids out there that wouldn’t be alive today if they had not been adopted? Yep. My youngest child is one of them.
There aren’t easy answers… there are lots of questions that don’t have good answers… We have been told by God that it’s our job to care for them. How we choose to fulfill that command is up to Him and us…. Adoption, Foster, Sponsorship…Family Support. Just do SOMEthing....