Monday, October 4, 2010


I don’t always express myself the way I want to here… sometimes I forget the things I wish I could have said… or should have said. And I guess there is an edit button for a reason. But I also love how other’s share there opinions here as well.

I can’t even begin to try to tell you that I am a perfect parent.(my teenage daughter happily reminded me of that last night) Or that I have all the answers. I know there is pain involved in so many aspects of adoption. But I also know there is MUCH beauty.

One of the things I love love love about the adoption community is the passion.

There is SO much passion on both sides.

What I have been so encouraged by, this past year, has been the amount of adoption seminars, summits, and educational weekends. The community is growing, the word is spreading.

The word that is also spreading is family preservation...creating ways to help children, especially those over seas, stay in their own families.

There is also a ton of conversation going on surrounding the foster system. I know several families that have adopted from the foster system, or are foster parents and are helping to share the word about the program to raise awareness.

Adoption isn’t the only answer.

However in more cases than can be named, adoption is the best answer.

I was watching Extreme Home Make-over last night. Did you see it? Oh my goodness… if you want to see a beautiful picture of what adoption can do in a family find the rerun online and watch it. There were 8 siblings. All adopted. Six of which had Downs Syndrom. The 2 oldest children, who did not have Downs, took care of the younger 6 because the parents had passed away. There was love, commitment and blessings abound in this family. The 2 siblings that cared for the other 6 both said they did so because they had learned from their parents that you cared for others. It’s the way it should be.

Where would those kids have been if not adopted into a family?

In a perfect world there would not be birth mothers that need to make choices to end pregnancies or give up their child for adoption. In a perfect world mothers would not give birth to children that they can not take care of. In a perfect world mothers would not die during childbirth. In a perfect world there would not be children watching their parents die from a disease that is 100% preventable. In a perfect world all mothers that desperately want to become biological mothers, would conceive and realize their dreams.

We don’t live in a perfect world.

So…we have a responsibility to educate ourselves. Share our experiences. Teach others. Show Grace. Choose Life.


SupermomE13 said...

Beautiful! Love you! And NO parents are perfect... especially ones with teenagers. :)

Leah said...

This was so similar to what I posted today. It was obviously on both of our minds. :)

I've heard so many comments today speaking out against adoption. In a perrfect world, adoption wouldn't exist because we would have no orphans. I am all for family preservation, but unfortunately, it doesn't always work. I am at peace that coming into my family is the best option for my baby boy. :)

"Are These Kids All Yours?" said...

Soo....true :)