Tuesday, May 28, 2013

8 Months home... Life is Hard

I just went back through a bunch of old comments. :) I am not even sure that there is anyone that's still reading this... or even how long I will be able to keep this up. SO SO much has happened and is happening. We came home on Sept 23, 2012. We had a beautiful homecoming. The boys settled ... for a few days. Then.... the honeymoon was over. It was like the honeymoon we had for our wedding... short and sweet. All the changes were too hard for them, food was too different, rules were too strict, gifts didn't come quick enough and clothes were not good enough. Not every day was bad, we had some good times. Enjoyed some laughs, had some bonding, enjoyed language learning together. We went to the beach for the first time. We went to the park and to visit family. We learned how to ride a bike. Started school and played in our first snow. Then the kids realized that family life wasn't as easy as they anticipated and we realized that teen parenting was harder than we anticipated... although we had done it twice before. We read all the books and did the required home work, read the blogs and looked for the answers. We are now 8 months in... it's not easier.... we are now in some much harder areas. Many I can't share because of the nature of them... and many I may attempt to share because while I still believe that older child adoption is needed in SO many ways... I believe going into it with real information is also mandatory. Even my sharing won't necessarily help... I was just telling a friend this morning who has been there done that, that it's very much like trying to describe a roller coaster. I could tell you exactly how life will be with a teen... every bump, hill and valley and still you wouldn't ever truly know what it's like without actually riding it. So.... if you are looking for more information about the older child adoption... the one that isn't all rosy and easy transition come on back... :) If not...well I am not sure how many are reading this any way and it's more for my release than anything else :) Talk to ya soon...

4 comments:

Anonymous said...

still reading and thinking of you :) keeping you and your family in my prayers! Becky

Anonymous said...

Been thinking of you often...still reading. Can't offer advice, but you got my prayers always and an ear for venting anytime. Terri, Nebyat & Jetu's mom (paresinc@erols.com)

ifthisiscrazy.com said...

Still here! Glad you are back :) And very much understand ...

Cindy said...

I didnt even know you were back to blogging! I am SO glad! I love when you blog!
And...I get some of the hard stuff...you know we walked through some hard stuff too, and still do as we miss her and continue to try to continue on with life, while always having her in our hearts, but have been shut out. keep pressing on my friend. God is holding you all.